Session five; Emotional well-being. In
today’s presentation we’ll be talking about emotional well-being. Things that
threaten our emotional well-being, negative versus positive emotions, and
discuss some practical ways to enhance positive emotions. Emotional well-being
is one of the most essential aspects of wellness, yet is one that gets little
attention. Do you think that is true? If so, why would it be that emotional
well-being gets so little attention? Maybe it’s because we’re often told not
to show emotions. You know things like don’t cry, don’t be emotional at work,
deal with it. Or you’ll find emotional well-being is the ability to feel and
express the entire range of emotions from anger to love and control them not
be controlled by them. The key point here is the importance of having awareness of
the emotions and then being able to respond appropriately, rather than react
from an autopilot mood. We discussed this previously when we talked about the
benefits of practicing mindfulness as a way to gain a deeper awareness of our
thoughts emotions and sensations. This image shows that we move up and
down between emotions throughout our day so emotional well-being is not about
being happy all the time but rather finding out what makes us the happiest
and regularly engaging in those activities or with those people more
frequently so that we can experience positive States more frequently than
negative States. By doing that throughout our day we end a day with more energy
and satisfaction, rather than feeling depleted and exhausted. Threats to
emotional well-being. Let’s look at some things that threaten our emotional
well-being. Again we are not looking at eliminating negative emotions, but rather
being aware of all the emotions and responding in a choice full way.
Mismanage emotions such as anger, frustration, resentment, fear, perceived
threats or everyday stressors, trauma, major life event such as a death or
this or a loss of job. What are some examples of these emotions when reacted
Upon inappropriately? Perhaps road rage? Abusive language, overeating,
passive-aggressive behavior, sarcasm or just suppressing the emotion, anger and
fear. The average person tends to get angry between 15 and 20 times per day.
Anger and fear are two emotions that have one purpose, to save your life in
the event of physical danger. I’m sure you’ve all heard of the fight-or-flight
response right? Anger is a fight response, fear is a flight response. Given that how
many of our lives are truly threatened 50 to 20 times a day what kind of things
are we most threatened by that we experience anger this often. Each day are
we perhaps reacting out of stress than actually having our lives endangered.
About 1 in 10 Americans age 12 and over takes antidepressant medication. Here are
2 more emotional states, anxiety and depression that one ongoing can disrupt
our emotional well-being and the prevalence is quite high. “The reason
people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better
than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved then it
will be.” How true this is this quote sums up what we’ve talked about earlier in
this series. We tend to ruminate on the past or rehearse what might occur in the
future. This way of thinking often results in increased feelings of stress
and anxiety. We know that our thoughts are directly linked to our emotions. It’s
how we are thinking about a situation that results in a positive or negative
emotion positively. So what is the antidote to all this fear and anger
Anxiety and depression and other negative emotional states we talked
about? Mindfulness as a way to decrease the stress response my
is helpful in bringing awareness to our emotional moods which allows us to the
make a choice to do something differently. There’s also an additional
practice and training that can help offset negative emotions.
it’s called positivity and like mindfulness can be practiced anytime and
anywhere and for brief periods of time. Practicing positivity builds the area of
the brain that helps Warren to see the world through a more positive lens. A
renewing researcher on the subject is Dr. Barbara Frederickson. She has done
research in this field for 20-plus years and has written many peer-reviewed
articles as well as a popular book called Positivity. She’s a professor of
psychology at University of North Carolina.
According to her research here are some valuable benefits of practicing
positivity. Some research proven benefits of practicing positivity include
increased creativity, increased resiliency, increased academic
performance, increased social connectivity, increased Trust. Positive
emotions don’t just make us feel good they transform our minds our bodies and
our ability to bounce back from hard times. Dr. Feddersen isn’t just talking
about junk for joy positive emotions. There are a whole range of positive
emotions out there including feelings of gratitude, feelings of serenity and
feelings of wealth and closeness.For the people we care for, if positive emotions
open our awareness and increase the expanse of our peripheral vision that
means that they help us see more possibilities and there are a lot of
benefits that flow from this. Far from being trivial we found that positive
emotions broaden our awareness in ways that reshape who we are and they build
up our useful traits in ways that bring out the best in us helping us become the
best versions of ourselves. Positivity is a psychological state that broadens the
mind and brings us closer to others. These are some of the emotional states
associated with positivity. Wouldn’t it be nice to experience these states more
throughout our day? And there a lot of benefits that flow from this.
People are more creative when they’re experiencing positive emotions. When
solving a problem they can come up with more ideas of what they might do next.
People are more likely to be resilient. Kids academic performances can improve.
Research has shown that kids do better on math tests or other tests if they’re
just asked to sit and think of a positive memory before they take the
test. Positive emotions make us more socially connected to others even across
groups. And other experiments show that if you induce positive emotions people
are more trusting and come to better win-win situations and negotiations. Today is a good day for a good day. It’s
important to practice positivity. Fortunately many researchers agree that
short practices have results referred to by some as micro movements. one does not
have to sit for hours a day to reap the benefits of practicing positive emotions
it literally can be done in brief moments. here’s an example, one brief
practice is to simply start your day checking in and asking what is good
about today. It may be as simple as appreciating that you have eyes that see,
legs that move, beautiful weather, loving relationships, a roof over your
head and food on your table. To summarize, today we talked about the
barriers to optimal emotional well-being. Cultivating awareness of our emotions
and choosing to respond versus react so that we’re controlling our emotions
rather than allowing our emotions to control us. We learned about two common
emotions that lead to reactivity, anger and fear or the fight-or-flight to
negative emotions such as depression anxiety that are very prevalent in our
society. And positivity as an antidote to negative emotional states. Next steps
your journey like who you are think about are you in touch with your
emotions, treat others well, value experiences / possess
questions hole gratitude for your loved ones, have meaning in your life, and try
to be flexible. Practice what is good about today, also practice positivity at
least three times this week. Additional resources.Thank you for joining us in
session five emotional well-being in your best self
a guide to achieving a balanced well-being series.